Do you want to have kids?

Having children and having a career are not mutually
exclusive, and it's time society stops trying to make us feel like we have to
choose. We can be successful professionals, and great mothers if our hearts so
desire. But unfortunately we as women have been conditioned to believe that we
must pick one. I too am guilty of this school of thought. It made choosing a
specialty an excruciatingly hard process. One that pitted mind versus heart. I
knew in my mind I should choose something flexible, deemed a "good lifestyle,"
so I could have a family. In fact I had worked hard to achieve good grades and
scores, for the sole purpose of having the option to select something more
"lifestyle friendly". However I knew in my heart what would make me
happy, so after much deliberation, I decided to follow my heart.
Unfortunately I often see my female peers make the
former choice, and I don't fault them. We have a small window of time to
decide, limited information, and guesses about what our life may or may not be
like in twenty years, and what may or may not make us happy then. I have some
classmates who already have families and are better able to assess their
priorities. They want to maximize their time as parents because that's what's
most important for their happiness. But for the childless among us though, we
often fall into this trap of basing decisions right now on the family we may
have in 10-20 years, before even finding a partner.
I find myself falling into this trap at times;
limiting myself and my potential because I may have kids one day. It's in those
times I have to stop, step back, and think if I were a man, would I be doing
this? My male peers often pick what they like. The possibility of them being a
dad one day usually isn't a limiting factor. But us women, we limit ourselves
based on that metric, and it's time we stop. Once we realize that priorities
change, careers evolve, life is flexible, people adapt, and nothing is set in
stone, we can start achieving our FULL potential. There are kick ass boss women
we see everyday with successful careers, flourishing families, and full lives,
so why would we be any different?
So the next time someone asks you about kids, kindly
tell them to mind their own business, because a woman's worth is not based on
her ability to marry and reproduce. A woman's worth is measured by the lives
she impacts, the benefits others gain from her successes, and the love she
leaves behind. Once you know your worth, no one can tell you otherwise.
-MJ
Very well stated girl. I fall victim to this way of thinking but now I'm definitely going to be more mindful of it. I love your blog by the way.
ReplyDeleteAwww thanks India, I'm glad you can relate...the struggle is definitely real, but like you said we just have to be mindful. And thank you so much, that really means a lot. ❤️
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